Monday, July 19, 2010

I Twitter her Yahoo and Google all over her Facebook.

Everyone is using it...And if you're not, you're "pound sound-sign" losing (#Losing). There's been an increase of users on every social media site on the web, but not everyone is using it or knows how to use social media to its maximum capabilities. I've done some research myself into how to make social networks work for you.

1. Free Advertising: If you're on twitter, facebook, etc., you all know that its an easy way to get your name out to friends, follower and/or whoever else happens to stumble upon it. Take advantage! Whether you're using it publicize for a professional event, student organization, or your lil' cousins birthday party get the word out to the people you want to be there. (I like to call this viral marketing.)

2. Meet new people. Twitter, Linked-In, etc, connects you to a whole world of people at your finger tips. Not everyone you are looking to meet, but some people may have something you want. I know your mom told you "not to talk to strangers", but in this case you might want to throw that rule out the window. Network, Network, and do some more Network. Meet people that will matter to you, that share some of the same interests, ideas, are in the same field of work. You never know how you can be benefit from a new friend, follower, or connection.

3. Build a name for yourself. You want to make sure that you are getting the word about who you are. A lot of people on these sites fail to fully fill out their profiles forgetting key information. You want to make sure you tell enough without telling too much. Learn to make people interest in what you have to say, what you're about to do, make them want to get to know you. Please remember to be yourself, you never want to sound too professional and legitimate because even in the professional world #Fake stinks!

4.Navigate Opportunities. There's a plethora of events happening in your area that you may not know of. Stay on top of whats going and see who's going to what. I personally use my twitter and FB to see what events of interest are happening in the area that may be able to attend. If key people are there, #WIT (we in there)! Use this for your advantage find out important news stories and etc. Social Networking sites can be your go-to place for the "know-how" and the "what's happenings" globally and locally!

5. Share and seek the knowledge. With all these people on these sites, there's tons of information shared by experts. Get to know these people and pick their brains, read their articles, follow their blogs, etc. In order to become more marketable and an expert in your own right one day, you must obtain this brain power from those notable in their field.

I hope these 5 tips are useful start to making social media work harder for you!


She likes them fast! I want one...

Monday, July 12, 2010

Surprise...You Win!

"The Roller Coaster. The Car rises slowly to the top, then suddenly hurtles you into space, whips you to the side, throw you up side down, in every possible direction. The riders laugh and scream. What thrills them is to let go, to grant control to someone else, who propels them in unexpected directions. What new thrill awaits them around the next corner?"

So here is the second piece to my mini-series of posts on this blog. The element of surprise!

When you think of being surprised there's an overwhelming amount of feelings present. You get anxious, nervous, excited, flustered, and an overwhelming feeling of suspense to just name a few. Surprises can be used in multiple ways such as to defeat, to thrill, and my favorite, to please (her).

The most important thing about trying  to do the surprise technique correctly and effectively is to make it work for you and the situation you are in. Not all surprises are the right type of surprises and you might not get the outcome you are looking for. This I can't explain, it's more trial an error than anything else. Just be cloaked and calculated and you'll be fine.

So the most important part of the surprise is not actually the surprise, its the climax (double entendre that!). So when you're trying to surprise someone (her) make sure the set-up to the surprise directly correlates with the outcome. No one likes to be kept in suspense with sub par ends. If you keep the them (her) yearning for the surprise and able to match the anticipation, my good friend you just won! No matter how old someone is, everyone loves a good thrill and surprise. So keep it interesting!

The reason why people (women) love surprises so much is because of the thought of being controlled. The willpower of humans are suspended when their (her) feelings takeover. We get this similar thrill when we watch a movie or read a thriller: we are asking the author or director of the movie to lead us to the end, not expecting, but anticipating every twist and turn along the journey.  The surprise creates a moment when people's (her) defense come down and new emotions (pleasure, happiness, excitement, etc.) can rush in. So make sure when they (she) reaches her climax, be there to meet them (her) and relish in the glories of job well done.

The reason to master the art of the surprise is prevent from being predictable. Being predictable will have you become boring.

Sunday, July 11, 2010

My Favorite Boondocks Episode of season 3

Ciroc and Krispy Kreme's pt.2

So seeing the attention the first title of the orignal post recieved (Chipotle and Kripsy Kreme's) it's is only right to bring a part two. I feel like I am going to make this another mini series, each post with just my personal thought and reflection.

But on to the purpose of this post...

So I went on another journey this past thursday afternoon. I skipped out on my #infamous (Chad voice) #GrownPeople #NapTime (the 5-7 hour time frame), but it was well worth it. During this walk with my bro (@mistajoseph), I discovered and realized a few things about my life.

On our mission we decided to stop in this suit shop. This elderly white man started to rap (converse) to us about his life growing up in New York and how everything was separated by race and ethnicity. I believe this conversation was just brought up because we were african-american males dressed in urban attire, but nonetheless his intentions of this conversation did not mean to cause us any harm. During the conversation we found out he was a tailor and made a promise to come back during the year to shop for suits and get our tailoring done there (up'n the professional swagger). Then we were #OnToTheNext

After the suit shop we stopped to pick up our choice adult drink of the summer, Ciroc. Vinny, the owner of the L-store (20&I), knows us as the ciroc-guys now. What can I say, but my palette has developed quite a taste for Ciroc Red-berry to be exact. After our purchase Vinny had mentioned to us that he was bar tending at a bar down the street and that he was going to give us a hook-up and get us in for free.

So after all these pit-stops we finally reach out destination Krispy Kreme's.

So the point of this post did not come until the walk home. I started to look at the interactions I made with random people differently. Everyone person I meet I start to look at as a potential person to network with. I was disappointed that I failed to have my business cards with me, but hey I know better next time. As I continue in the grand scheme of things, I start to embrace these strangers as possible new business ventures or potential clients. (Free-Lance event planner, you need something to happen holla at ME!)

So embrace the randomness, embrace the new people you come across in your life, and maximize everything that you come across.


Thursday, July 8, 2010

You must be Seductive, not Political...

"The summer storm.  The hot days follow one another, with no end in sight. The earth is parched and dry. Then there comes a stillness in the air, thick and oppressive - the calm before the storm. Suddenly gusts of wind arrive, and flashes of lightning, exciting, frightening. Allowing no time to react or run for shelter, the rain comes, and brings with is a sense of release. At last." - 1

Here's the first post of many that I will be posting about relationships (girlfriend/boyfriend, boss, best-friend, brother/sister and parent). This is tricky though. I am no expert, but I do feel that I am well-educated in the realm of dealing with them. I've seen the good, bad, ugly, and sometimes the in between when it comes to relationships.

So we all heard one or both of these sayings before: "Nice guys finish last" and "The early bird gets the worm" or something along those lines. I am actually not a favor of either those. Because honestly never do both of those really ever are the case. There's a fine line in between both of them, its actually an art to walk through this gray area and not be blurred in the confusion.

To get what you want I realized out of any relationship you have to take it. It is very rare that the person will volunteer their selves, vulnerability, etc. to you without some kind of chase. Whether you are looking for that raise, that respect, and/or those panties odd are you have to work it and make a calculated move.

Sometimes we often find ourselves at war with our own feelings from getting this task done. Being timid often times stops us from acting on our gut reaction. The issue with being timid, is that we aren't born timid. Timidity is a protection we develop as we grown older in society. We learn to be kind and polite, well at least on the surface ( we all know we be judgin' sometimes). So in a sense, after living years behind this veil, we lose the ability to be BOLD. Being timid in reality is actually being obsessed with the way other people see them; to put it blunt, self absorbed.

So you must be seductive, not political to get what you want sometimes. So throw out the chivalry, kindness, and coquetry. Be that "go-getta" that you were born into this world as. Be calculated though. No one likes some one who is too blunt. Develop the anticipation, the build up, the calm before the storm. Make it work.


1- Robert Greene Art of Seduction.